Happy New Year! Can you believe it's 2020, I cannot. I have always loved the New Year. I love the fact that I get to start over, start anew, start again. There is something about a New Year that is motivating and inspirational all on it's own. As exciting as new beginnings are, what I have also come to realize is maintaining the excitement, optimism, and hope is very difficult to do. I have consistently run out gas after about a month or so...until last November!
If we choose to reflect on them, patterns of behavior hold some of the biggest lessons in life. Last year I chose to look at my pattern of running out of gas, hope if you will regarding reaching and achieving my goals for the upcoming year. I'm not talking about New Year Resolutions, I don't really make those anymore. What I'm referring to is looking back on the year ending and thinking about what I want to work towards in the coming year. As I reflected on what could be the difference between this year and last year, what immediately came to mind was, I need some support. I need someone that will hold me accountable, and encourage me throughout the entire year. I needed a group, a like minded team.
I knew my main goal for the upcoming year had everything to do with becoming a full-time entrepreneur. I decided I wanted the group to consist of fellow women entrepreneurs. I had to know they were serious and would be someone that would be committed to the group. I knew I wanted the group to be small, because I needed it to be manageable and stress free. I was so intentional that I actually started thinking and praying in late November about who I wanted to be in the group for January 2019. It ended up being 5 of us and it was the absolute perfect size made up of the perfect women for me.
I created a FB group initially, the plan was for the group to meet on a quarterly basis beginning in January. The intent was to discuss each person's identified goals during the quarterly meetings, as well as spend time getting to know one another better. I was the common denominator since not all of them knew everyone in the group. During the months we didn't meet we used the group to provide inspiration, networking opportunities, tips, lessons learned, and resources that may have been beneficial in spurring one another on.
When I tell you this was one of the best things I have done in a long time, I mean it. These women helped me in so many ways. There is something about telling someone you are going to do something that you know you want to do but have allowed things to get in the way, mostly yourself. Stating goals out loud and writing them down, sharing them with people you trust, creates momentum and drive that I hadn't experienced before. We truly helped one another accomplish one milestone after another, one quarter of the year at a time.
I don't know what your goals, dreams, or aspirations are for 2020 but I would encourage you, if there are things you want to achieve, consider creating your own group. We could all use some support, encouragement, and accountability. Your goals could be entrepreneurship, weight-loss, fiances, physical activity, changing your diet, figuring out your goals and dreams, the group can be whatever you want, there just has to be a common purpose that everyone in the group is connected to.
Whatever changes you want to make in 2020, however you choose to make them, I wish you all the success in the world. If you can do it alone, kudos to you. If you are like me and need a little help, go for it. Don't subscribe to coulda, woulda, or shoulda but didn't. Don't get on the 360 roller coaster where you end up right back where you started, do a 180 and land in a different place this time next year. If the five of us can do, you can too, all we needed was each other!
Happy New Year!